i feel for those children whose parents stayed together for them. parents would think that it's the more sensible thing to do; that when things don't work out between them they'd stay together for the sake of their kids. in some ways it's better. a whole family is better than a broken one. but wouldn't a broken family be better than a whole one where the parents are constantly bickering with each other?
children might not have the ability to comprehend the complexity of what's really happening but they know that something is wrong. they know that what they have now, a family, isn't really a family.
(hmmm... another one of those twisted thoughts that i have. flame away.)
Death is light as a feather, but duty is heavier than a mountain.
ReplyDeleteChico - A favorite quote.
ReplyDeleteJam - Marriage is what keeps you two together until you fall in love again. If you give up how will you ever give it a chance? It might be bickering today but who knows about tomorrow (even if the good tomorrow may be months or years away?). It might seem only for the children and sometimes it comes to that point (emotionally) but the results that come out of it reaches far beyond them. I have to agree though that it is sad when it comes to that. And when it comes to that I have to go back to the previous quote...
chicks: hmmm... you can still be responsible even if you're not or with your children.
ReplyDeletehan: i don't advocate breaking up your marriage at the first sign of a (possible chronic) problem. of course you try every possible thing to work things out. and if the problem can't be resolved on the first time, you try again. again and again and again. separating should be the very last resort.
I used to agree with that "twisted" thought. That is until I got married and had Paulo. It's really tough on parents when they find themselves in a position where they have to decide if it's worth staying together for the sake of the kids. But the answer's always YES, it is worth it. Having a family also means putting your WHOLE family above and beyond you.
ReplyDeleteThe option to separate will always be there, but for me, as long as my children are young and/or won't be able to understand/accept what me and my husband are going through, I'll try with all my might to keep my family together.
amen to that faye! i say keep working on the relationship. exhaust all means to keep it together. but if things don't get better and your children are now able to understand the whole situation, you should seriously start thinking about separation. it's not the easy way out. it's just a better way.
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